7.28.2012

thoughts on relationships

I keep getting more and more emails asking for advice on relationships. I'm flattered, but I'm also no expert. Nonetheless, I thought I'd attempt my best impersonation of Carrie Bradshaw, and start posting more on the popular topic of love and relationships.

So here are my thoughts on beginning a new relationship...

Stay true to yourself. Your likes, your dislikes, your beliefs. They are all part of you. There are times you will be opened up to new ideas, tastes, sounds. Give them a whirl, but never change who you are to fit with someone else. And in return, don't expect someone to change for you.

So often people end up losing themselves because they attempt to be someone else in order to gain or retain affection. It becomes a big circus of acts and performances, but the show can't go on forever. Once it's over, they are left alone and as someone they no longer recognize.

It's important to know and love who you are. Gain confidence in every little thing that makes you, you. Having a solid relationship with yourself will allow for a solid relationship with someone else. The right person is going to love every quirk, every opinion, and every quality that you possess.

Love someone for the right reasons. There are no motives in real love. It is a naturally occurring attachment to another person. There is no rhyme nor reason behind it. It is never forced. It's the truest, most honest, and innocent feeling.

There are those with wrong intentions. They seek out those who only have something to offer them. Rather than appreciating someone for who they are, their appreciation lies in the exterior. The fame and money, the looks and possessions. They wind up building a relationship on a false foundation that will eventually crumble down.

Begin a relationship with the best of intentions, authenticity, and asking for nothing other than love from that person. In the end, the way someone makes you feel will offer you a whole lot more than a lifestyle or something shiny ever could.

Go for it. When it's love, it's love. And you'll know. When you forget everything else. When you throw caution to the wind. When you jump in heart first, and leave your head behind. That's love.

There are too many things that hold us back when it comes to love. It could be a past relationship that's dug its fingernails so far into you that it makes it difficult to forget. It could be people's opinions, whether told to your face or whispered behind your back. It could be that you don't think you're good enough and shy away. We end up missing out on opportunities and are later left wondering what if?

So don't ever think those awful two words of what if? When you see a chance in front of you, take it. Forget the past, don't listen to anyone else but your own heart, and be brave. Even if all the odds are against you, find the one odd in your favor, and go for it. It's going to be so worth it.

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1 comment:

  1. I really enjoy your writing! You have a gift - and what you offer here is solid advice too. :) I'm so glad I stumbled across your blog! :) - M

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