Appreciate the little things. It's important to spend time with the one you love and continue to learn more and more about each other. Spend your time getting lost in conversations, curled up on the couch, or cooking dinner together. When you spend time together doing everyday things then you know what real life will be like with that person.
Too often people try to fill their relationships with excitement. Vacations, nightlife, activities. They get blinded by this fantasy life and forget the actual meaning of a relationship. Real life is going to hit one day and you may not like who you're standing with when all the excess is gone.
Settle down with someone who you enjoy spending time even if you're doing absolutely nothing. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try new things or become hobbits, but there is a balance to everything. If you attempt everything all at once, you'll have nothing to look forward to in the future.
Take your time.There are big moments in relationships. They are the steps you take to move further in life with the one you love. They are memories that are meant to be special and hold a place in both your hearts. With such big decisions, it's okay to take your time in making them.
People unfortunately rush these big moments. They want it all now, now, now. And who wouldn't? The first part of a relationship is the "honeymoon stage" where everything is new and seemingly perfect. It blinds couples and makes them feel as though they are ready for these huge stepping stones. They'll be too far in when they realize the honeymoon is over.
Remember that relationships take time to develop. It's okay to take your time in understanding what and who is right to fit into your life. With life-changing moments, whether moving in, getting engaged, or saying "I do," it's best to think, breathe, and wait a minute. Be patient. Communicate. Plan ahead. Be certain the time is right.
Be thoughtful. Everyone wants to feel special in some way. It can turn someone's whole day around or just remind them that they are loved. Try to do little things to remind someone of how much they mean to you. Whether it's monetary, homemade, or a simple statement, it's important to be thoughtful towards the one you love.
Losing the spark is a terrible thing, especially when there are feelings of being under-appreciated or overlooked. Unfortunately it happens. Couples get comfortable in the day-to-day and forget about doing anything remotely special.
Little surprises go a long way. It could be a "good luck" text. Picking up hair gel from the store. Buying a simple piece of jewelry. All of these things just show that you care and that you're thinking of your partner. And giving is always better than receiving in my opinion.
I spent the weekend with Boyfriend in Sedona. The weather was perfect for hiking, eating breakfast by the creek, and walking around town. We stayed at the Briar Patch Inn (courtesy of my mama). It's an adorable bed and breakfast right alongside Oak Creek. It was the perfect romantic getaway.
How adorable are these tiny tarts? I think dainty desserts are just the sweetest thing. Ingredients: 8 oz. raspberries, pureed 2 1/2 oz. cassis 1 oz. grenadine 1 1/2 cup heavy cream, cold 1/4 cup confectioner sugar 30 tart shells 3 oz chocolate, melted
Instructions: 1. Place raspberries, cassis and grenadine in a food processor and pulse until pureed. Set aside 5 tablespoons of mixture. 2. Place cold cream and sift confectioner over the top it, using a hand mixer beat on high until medium peaks form. Be careful not to overbeat or it will look broken and curdled like. Turn off hand mixer and fold in remaining raspberry mixture. 3. Coat bottom of tart shell with melted chocolate and then set aside until chocolate hardens or place in the freezer to quickly harden it. Place about 1/4 teaspoon of reserved raspberries on top of chocolate. 4. Fit pastry bag with preferred tip and pipe raspberry mouse on top. Keep refrigerated until 20 minutes before serving.
Breakups suck, but moving on is the light at the end of the tunnel. I've written about that process here. To aid in the process of moving on it's typical to eat a tub of Ben and Jerry's ice cream while spritzing whipped cream on your tongue while watching The Notebook. It's a lot of emotional multi-tasking. Then you bash on your ex. Then you regret the sweets and hit the gym...hard. You're convinced you'll get a body that will win your ex back, as if losing five pounds will miraculously fix all the problems in that ol' relationship. Then you drink...a lot. Dressing up and going out with the girls while prowling for new meat is sure to fix that broken heart. Right?
Let's skip all that binge eating. Let's skip that two hour run at the gym. Let's skip that nasty hangover. Let's just feel. Feel that sucky pain. Cry those salty tears. Let your emotions get the best of you. It's okay to let it all out. It's okay to be human.
My pretty friend, Erika, is one heck of a human. (Check out her Tumblr). She made up a breakup box for someone who recently had their little heart crushed. I loved the idea. She put in some yummy treats, inspiring books, a wine glass, a "grow-your-own-prince," a razor (to avoid becoming a wooly mammoth), and oodles more. How sweet is she?
Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are cared for, especially when we lose a love. So if you know someone who is going through a breakup then try putting together a "breakup box" for them. It will probably mend their heart more than you know.
Nothing says summer like laying by the pool with an ice cold drink in hand. I plan on spending a lot of weekends in my new backyard catching some sun and sipping on a few cocktails. This is one I have to try.
Steep 4 or 5 black tea bags, 2 cups turbinado sugar and 2 handfuls of fresh mint in 3 cups simmering water for 5 minutes, stirring to dissolve the sugar. Strain into a pitcher; add the juice of 3 limes, 1 1/2 cups light rum, 1 cup cold water and another handful of mint. Stir vigorously, crushing the mint with a wooden spoon; chill. Serve over ice with lime and more mint. [recipe via Food Network]